Or all your friends of color, for that matter. And still, you should fight.

More and more people have become conscious to the fact that we have a race problem in America, and the world; specifically, a white supremacist problem. If you’re one of these people, welcome! There’s Work to be done — the Work being the dismantling of white supremacy. One of the reasons why it may feel challenging to commit to openly fighting white supremacy is knowing that others will react negatively to you simply naming it. People have varying levels of awareness and attachments to whiteness and white supremacy, whether they themselves are white or not. These people are our family…


We are capable of genuine and loving connection, even if we’ve convinced ourselves that we’re better off alone.

Loneliness is an intense emotion that can make us act and think in many different ways. As gay men, we are forced to grapple with loneliness as soon as we realize we’re attracted to men. We are forced to hide our true, authentic selves from friends, family, our community, and even ourselves at an early age. We put up walls, we lie or tell half truths, and show up partially to every relationship, not because we don’t want to be fully seen or connected, but because we fear what might happen if we do. …


White people who cling to the illusion of whiteness left themselves no choice but to violently storm The Capitol on January 6, 2021.

In what looked like scenes from a movie, news outlets showed America what many of us knew would eventually happen — white citizens violently terrorizing the nation and government. Their reason? Undermine democracy to keep a white supremacist/white supremacy in power. Many Americans watched in horror and confusion, asking “How could this happen?,” to which I ask, “How did you not see this coming?

What we’re witnessing are tactics that whiteness has used throughout history to gain, maintain, and usurp power across the world and throughout the entire existence of the United States of America. Whiteness is an ideology that…


There’s a mass awakening and reckoning happening among gay men right now. Here are 5 things you can do to help.

Since New Year’s Eve, gay social media has been in an uproar. Gay men are getting called out for hosting and attending massive parties during the deadliest time of the COVID-19 global pandemic. Videos of a gay party boat sinking, pictures of crowded circuit parties, and memes referencing these events are drawing commentary from the gay masses and holding these men accountable for their actions (or shaming them, depending on some people’s perspective).

As a licensed clinical social worker and gay man, I see this as a mass conscious awakening that has the potential to bring much needed healing and…


In the midst of a global pandemic, many gay men are turning to parties in Puerto Vallarta. Understanding why is the first step toward making sure it doesn’t get worse.

Social media on New Year’s Eve and the days following has been a dramatic saga. Gay men are getting called out for hosting and attending massive parties in cities like Puerto Vallarta, Rio de Janeiro, and Houston during the deadliest time of the COVID-19 global pandemic. Videos of a gay party boat sinking, pictures of crowded circuit parties, and memes referencing these events are drawing commentary from the gay masses, holding these men accountable for their actions (or shaming them, depending on your perspective).

The culture in the gay male community that leads to this type of behavior is something…


Let us look within ourselves as we enter a new age of gay consciousness, joy, and connection.

As a gay man, I acknowledge and am grateful for those who fought, suffered, loved, and lived to make this world a better place for me and others like me. I will honor these queer ancestors by not simply existing, but thriving as the luminous and powerful gay being that I am — that we are. Our gay joy and love are a living, breathing revolution. Limitations imposed on our existence have kept the world from experiencing us at our full gay potential. Let’s step boldly into our truth to embody the unique power and beauty that’s inherent in us.


New year’s resolutions are cool, but have you ever manifested using a vision board?

Armando’s 2020 vision board.
Armando’s 2020 vision board.

I made my first vision board on January 1st, 2014 at an event at an LGBTQ church I attended when I lived in Houston, TX. I’ve made one every year since then because it’s the perfect time to reflect on who I am, my life, and to set intentions for my future. This annual practice allows me to tap into the magic that lives inside all of us to manifest the life we want.

While I haven’t been able to manifest a lasting romantic relationship through my vision boards, I’m astonished at how much I’m able to call into my…


Make the Yuletide extra gay this holiday season with these amazing gay creatives and their projects! (7–12 + bonus!)

In this 2-part article, you’ll hear from gay writers, podcasters, artists, life coaches, and storytellers whose work spreads joy, inspiration, and community. They share the mission behind their work, what has surprised them about their creative journey, tips for other gay creatives, and what we can look forward to from them in the near future.

Click here for part 1 to see the first half of The 12 Gays of Christmas!

7. The Spiritual Gayz


Make the Yuletide extra gay this holiday season with these amazing gay creatives and their projects! (1–6)

It goes without saying that this year has thrown a slew of challenges and shade our way.

When I reflect on what brought laughter, connection, and hope to my life during these tough times, the people behind those moments were talented and creative gay men. The purpose of “The 12 Gays of Christmas” is to spread queer cheer this holiday season and promote works by brilliant gay creatives.

I made a list, checked it twice, and got the tea on who’s been naughty and nice (all of them). In this 2-part article, you’ll hear from gay writers, podcasters, artists, life…


Finding a boyfriend isn’t easy, but is our approach to dating all wrong?

If you’re gay, single, and reading this, you’ve probably had your share of dating mishaps and disappointments. We traverse through dating apps and emotionally unavailable men in hopes of finding love with little to no success. It can easily become a vicious cycle of downloading the apps, collecting numbers and social media handles, little to no communication, deleting the apps out of frustration, and downloading them again when feeling lonely.

With all the time and emotional labor spent on dating, have we stopped to consider if our approach to dating will get us what we want? …

Armando Sánchez

A clinical social worker who writes for the growth and empowerment of gay men to lead a life of love & fulfillment. Social media: @gaymenandblog

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